Inconsideration

I don't like when people are inconsiderate of others feelings, especially when others have helped them. People are judging some of my parents wrongly... based on one fact. They don't realize how much they have helped everyone else, especially the person being inconsiderate. How have my parents helped the people who are judging them?

• One person my parents welcomed them into the family, gave them a free place for months to live after moving across country & helped find another place for them to move into.
• My parents also helped another person get them on the feet when they were in debt, worked tirelessly to get them into our country so they could start a life here with their spouse, let them stay with them for free for months until they moved across country into their own place starting a good life & having a child & finally helped them with the challenges after having their first child.
• Another person my parents still welcomed into the family after someone they loved was abandoned by this person for months until they realized their mistake.
• Finally my parents did the most for the last person; my loved ones gave up a huge chunk of their savings (with the understanding it was a loan) to help this someone start a new life without their previous spouse, support them financially (free rent, utilities, etc) & emotionally when they were alone, pregnant & without financial means, let them live practically rent & utility-free for the past year (continuing even after my father was laid off), pay for a special event with one expectation only to be cut out without regard to their feelings.

I care about everyone involved in this drama which makes this harder. My parents deserve better after everything they've done for everyone else but no one is taking any of that into account. They appear to feel that it's of no concern & that my parents do not deserve the respect & consideration anyone else does. I understand the main reason for the major decision (that caused all this conflict) but I feel that no one should accept financial or any other kind of help without making their feelings clear & agreeing to things they have no intention of honoring.

This issue is about respect & consideration that many people I care about & value relationships with are completely disregarding toward my parents which have helped them throughout the years. It upsets & dissappoints me to see this personality trait in these people my parents have willingly & freely given to. It's a shame this special event will disregard my parents & make it publicly obvious where they stand despite everything & has divided our family. After all this progress, it feels like our family is going back to square one.

It makes me want to ask, what has been real for them these past several years?